This deserves its own post. Grad School has brought me the best friends I will probably ever have in my entire life. Don’t get me wrong, I have always had friends. I’m a very social person, and I enjoy having friendships. I have been friends with my best girl friend since 6th grade (around 25 years or so). I have been friends with my best guy friend since 9th grade (22 years). They are still people I love. I have kind of grown in different ways from the female best friend, but we still talk regularly.
Then there are the people I have met here – both in my cohort and outside of academia. I have a group of 3 mom friends who have been lifesavers. We go out, we have playdates, we have wine nights, and on occasion we have late night benders where we really work our shit out. I love these women. We get each other. We are there for each other. These are the friends I picked as an adult. Don’t get me wrong – 6th grade and 9th grade me did a dang good job. Adult me did really great too.
The people in my cohort are fantastic. I spent 2 hours talking to one of them today (let’s call him George). He’s one of my best friends – hands down. He told me that when he gets married he is thinking of asking me to stand by him as a member of his side of the wedding party. I was honored. I would even wear a dress for that man. I don’t wear dresses, but I would for him. The other girl in my cohort (let’s call her Elaine) is fantastic too – such a kind, sweet friend. I absolutely adore these people I’m in school with. Even the new people (the first years). I spent Tuesday in TA training with one of them, and she and I got along famously. I’m looking forward to getting to know her more. And even more interestingly, I made a friend in another department. He is no longer at my institution but he was a solid influence in my life all of Spring semester. These are relationships that will last a lifetime because we couldn’t even go a summer without hanging out, talking, being there for each other. It’s truly amazing.
If I had to say what the best part of grad school is – I would have to say (at this point) it is definitely the people. The people make it all so much easier. I would be so lost and alone without them. I love my people.